I am (thankfully) married to the man who showed me what imperfectly perfect love is. Not only does he love me, flaws and all, but he selflessly loves our children (and my parents!) as well. Does he sometimes drive me crazy? Yes. He is one of those “absent-minded professors” whose ability to turn off the outside world has been honed to a fine edge now that he is in graduate school. He needs to be regularly reminded to take out the garbage. He doesn’t remember to take our cars for inspection every year. Those things all pale in comparison to the way that he cares for me, in all sorts of ways. He never complains about work, even when a project is driving him crazy. He chooses to go back and forth to Florida for a work trip IN ONE DAY so that he doesn’t have to spend the night away from us. He can talk me down from the symbolic ledge that my teenagers sometimes push me onto. His sense of adventure and fearlessness for trying new things has rubbed off on me. He jumps in for tag-team-parenting, and stays up late so that we can spend as much time together as possible, even though he gets up an hour earlier than me and is not a night-owl. I could seriously go on and on, but won’t, as the sappiness would just choke you at some point.
I will say this: he takes his role as head of our family seriously. He protects our family time and interests. He thinks ahead, financially and otherwise, in a way that I am not able.
We are yin and yang. God knew what He was doing when He led me to my other half. And I have to let God orchestrate our relationship, even when it means I have to change for the greater good of our family. ESPECIALLY when it means that. Because much of imperfectly perfect love is accepting that the other person was put in your life in order to improve, shape up, and mold your self. And vice versa.
So I won’t be lazy or resentful about becoming a better person. Because my husband hasn’t been. And so he has led the way to individual change, even if sometimes I went there kicking and screaming.
I so love my imperfectly perfect man.