Okay, so I am a nerd. Two of my favorite media “families” are the Star Trek enterprise and the Lord of the Rings movies. I have a love of the fantastical, and a love of any story that beautifully dramatizes the fight between good and evil. I think that is probably because in my own life, my personal story encompasses these elements. I have always had a vivid imagination (which made me a prolific liar as a child – being scarcely able to distinguish between my real, everyday life and the life I imagined myself to have) and an ability – call it discernment – to distinguish between a good person, and a person who had dark or evil intentions. I also have had experiences that could have seriously ruined me, could have turned me permanently bitter or jaded. But GOOD PREVAILED, and I couldn’t let my joy be stolen! My counselor in college once told me: “when you let your joy be stolen, you let the bad guy win” and I have never forgotten that. Alan also taught me that pain cannot be buried: his interpretation of that was to find the “dead body” in my psychological house and to give it a proper burial, so that my past pain and hurt wouldn’t steal the possibility of a happy future. That advice (and the hard work that I did personally and spiritually to give that body a proper send-off) saved my marriage; restored my joy; instilled a curiosity of understanding the battle between good and evil; and helped me rebuild my own psychological house so that I would have a good, solid foundation going forward. It was Alan’s (and my husband’s!) small acts of kindness and love that led me out of personal and spiritual darkness, and I will be forever grateful. Hopefully I will never forget that. Thank you Gandalf for reminding me!